How to Create Boundaries on a Cellular Level

Yes, you heard it! Boundaries are more than just a pop culture term right now. But do they really make a difference in our lives though? I’m here to say yes, they absolutely do! The more we know the difference between ourselves and the other, the more we can thrive in our relationships.  The more that our relationships become truly interdependent - relationships that look like a free flow, give and take, holding ourselves accountable, while also respecting yours and the others sovereignty and autonomy.  When we take in that which is from the other, we can't get clear on who we are. There is no boundary and the mechanics that govern our body are unaware of the ways that we are not ourselves.  We can get into an entire emotional experience that is not our own.  We can get into entire litany of questions in the mind that are not our questions to be asking.  We can get into an entire way of expressing ourselves or identifying with ourselves that are not the way we are meant to.  We can believe many things about ourselves that are meant to change over time and then cannot because we fixate on parts of ourselves that we believe are authentic but are truly something we've learned from the other. 

The boundary then in this sense is not some physical force field or some magical aura layering technique.  Those things can help, but they are not the mechanical way that boundaries work.  Boundaries happen when you know your body, you know what you were designed at birth to have in a fixed way and you know what you were designed to have in a way that fluctuates.  And from there, we are able to create this boundary for ourselves that begins with asking, "okay is this that I'm experiencing, expressing, dealing with right now, is this me or is it my conditioning?" And the boundary becomes a binary of choosing to either keep that bit of information of the way you are and knowing you will mechanically have that consistently or letting go of the way you are so that you can fluctuate in the way you operate. 

A way that we can do this is through learning our human design.  Your human design breaks down the body into nine centers that are dispersed throughout the body and each have different functions, like the throat center, that is designed to express and the G center that is where your identity resides.  The key with the centers is that they're either fixed in the way that you experience their function or they are conditioned by the other and the way you navigate that is through your strategy and authority.  Your S&A is something that each person has that is determined by your type.  Now before I throw a ton of human design vocabulary words at you, just know that it's a very complex yet streamlined way of viewing the self that a man named Ra Uru Hu channeled and spent his whole adult life unpacking! That's not to say that it's impossible to learn, far from it!  But you might need the help of someone who has studied the system and wants to teach it to you.  And luckily, you have to look no further than me!  I am currently taking clients to receive a reading that is comprehensive yet succinct and that will intertwine journal prompts and affirmations into your reading.  Now before you wonder about the efficacy of affirmations, know that they are a little like planting seeds and watching them grow.  You can resonate with one and feel like it's not yet you but could be you and then overtime, with practice, watch yourself grow into, take on its form and then all of a sudden the affirmation is true!  And journal prompts can help you to dig deep into how you experience each center. 

Now that I've given you my 30 second elevator pitch, let's get back to the topic at hand.  The way that human design creates boundaries with the other is in a very mechanical and metaphysical way.  There are lots of other ways to create the illusion of boundaries like in our language to others that influence our defense of our time, body, emotions, mind, work and our space.  You can read books about this and it's all over the internet right now - boundaries are an important piece of our relational evolution as a species.  Human design simply offers another lens through which to view the realm of boundaries and the work in creating boundaries through the human design philosophy has the potential to create change at a cellular level. And I’m here to guide you in your discovery if you feel so called!