Parenting a Generator: Creating Deep Satisfaction for Your Generator Child By Aligning Them With Their Life’s Work
So you have a Generator child and want to know how to best nurture them. This article will cover some of the basics of how Generators operate, how to see your Generator child’s strengths, how to not only teach but empower your Generator child, and how to help them get into the rhythm of work, all while helping them navigate the world using their strategy and authority to guide them.
What makes a Generator different from the other types you might ask. What defines a Generator is when their Sacral center is defined, meaning that they have access to a reserve of energy to propel them through their daily work to the point of completion and then rest and reset easily with sleep at night. What differentiates a Generator from a Manifesting Generator is that they have no direct connection or definition in the Throat center. The way they effect change and move through the world is by doing.
In seeing your Generator child’s strengths, you can help them to understand themselves and their incredible Sacral potential to get things done. Characteristically, Generators are designed to work and not only that but to love the work they do. They find satisfaction in using up all of their sacral energy and do so by responding to life. Response is the natural Generator strategy. Each type has their own strategy.
As children, you’ll want to keep them busy throughout the day, inviting responses by asking them to do things in question form or as requests. By asking your child to do different things instead of telling them, you are empowering them to live their life in response.
They will thrive in the mode of response. Because they are designed to wait to respond, it will help to teach them that life will naturally come to them. Their auras are inviting and enveloping and will magnetically pulling others towards them with the power of their creative life force.
The work of young children is play. To help your child learn how to act in response, initiate play with them by introducing toys and asking if they want to play, asking them to engage in imaginary play, and asking them to participate in your household’s daily tasks and routines. As they grow, their work will become school and then as an adult, a vocation or job. Teaching your Generator child to relax into the flow of response and use their daily supply of energy in that way, they will have the opportunity to find great fulfillment through their work. They may even feel they fulfill their life’s purpose in their work. The right work for your Generator child can even mean that they slow the aging process and get access to a well of vitality.
The following are some ways to help empower your Generator child:
Help them to be able to respond to you by asking yes or no questions.
When you’d like them to stop what they’re doing and do something else, make sure to ask them to stop so they can disengage in what they’re doing in the moment and then reset and reconnect to a different request.
Cultivate in them an appreciation for the concept of responding. Help them to know that some people’s role is in initiating and asking others to join in on things and that their role is to respond. Teach them that responding is a way for them to experience true satisfaction and that it’s their own special way of moving through life.
Help them to relax into responding by being the one to initiate responses from your child, no matter what type you are. Approach them by asking yes or no questions and suggesting opportunities.
Help them to understand that their response can be a “no” and that in finding what work is most fulfilling they are allowed to say “no.” And that in fact when they learn to say “no” they are then able to say “yes” to the initiations that are truly meant for them, so that they can spend their time doing what they truly love to do.
Help them to know that their responses, over time will propel them along their path towards the knowing, development, and refinement of their unique potential.
Your Generator child will do well to know these things about themselves:
In responding to requests, their Sacral center will either fully accept them or stay closed to them.
Their responses teach them important information about themselves. What they respond to can indicate who they are, their interests, and their values.
If they feel frustration, that is a good indication that they are out of alignment.
Being out of alignment looks like trying to be a Manifesting Generator by manifesting ideas for their own life or imagining what their life should look like.
Instead as a Generator, your child acts as a magnet drawing others and their requests towards them with the power of their aura.
Your Generator child will benefit greatly from getting into a rhythm of work. First and foremost, their Sacral needs to be committed to an effort from the beginning of the work. As mentioned, your child does best in response to questions or initiations and then dives into engagement with an activity when it begins as such. It’s normal for them to hit points of time where energy stalls throughout the process and to avoid the option of quitting at these transition points, as their parent, you can initiate them again by having new input, providing new insights or providing further instructions so they can continue to respond.
In waiting to respond, the process can be misinterpreted as doing nothing. However, your child is probably actually responding to stimulation in very small and specific ways that you may just not be noticing. These are things like laughing at a joke, hearing a song they like and singing along or responding to a memory with a feeling. Your Generator child is responding in every moment in different ways.
Authority is another facet of the Human Design philosophy that lends itself to the Generator experience. When Generators have emotional authority, they are given another tool with which to examine their world, measure the efficiency of their decisions, and to help them respond to the many requests that come their way. Emotional authority suggests that your Generator will emit an emotional wave from within that is constantly moving from highs to neutral to lows. The task is to then observe and witness how each of their decisions feels at each point in their wave. It is going to be helpful for them to take data at each point in their wave that will then give them a full picture of information as to how they feel about certain things. By teaching your Generator child to honor their emotional authority, you open them to the experience of allowing the wave of their emotions to happen without attachment or the sense that they are permanent.
When your child is so deeply aligned with their strategy to respond and their authority, it will be easier for them to harvest the power of their Sacral experience. In a way, it is like surrendering to something inevitable, something mechanical and something deeply empowering to live in right response to the Sacral. As Sacral beings, your child and other Generators will make so much change in our world if they are able to move from the frustration of trying to be like another type, such as Manifestor or Projector, and being themselves and cultivating satisfaction. Your Generator child simply needs to know how to do this and that honoring their own ways, instead of trying to be like other types, is profoundly empowering and loving towards themselves and our collective cooperation as our unique selves.
